I finally made a decision. The GNOME HIG people being unavailable, I decided that the following guidelines are usable (ah, the arrogance). There will be a green arrow thing that I borrowed from similar-use icons in Ximian OpenOffice that denotes a dialog and a yellow star that denotes a wizard. I decided that since the difference between a wizard and a dialog, at least in Bluefish, is nothing, so for now, the wizard mark will only show up for the first table and frames icons which actually say they’re a wizard in the tooltip. It might be good to rework those wizards to make them more wizard in appearance. I think technically a wizard is a multi-page dialog.
table row dialog
table header dialog
table cell dialog
the arrows/satrs are nice and out of the way, but when you look at it you can see they are there. Its a lot cleaner than the old icons, which looks nice.
I would call a dialog something to set up 1 tag, and a wizard to set up lots of tags, ie table, or thumbnails.,
Just an interesting thing about the wizards, gtk 2.6 is scheduled to have a druid/wizard built in, could be interesting 😉